Life's Little Lessons for 2010!

Gentle reminders for 2010!

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasmand Empathy.
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2009.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past that will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree....

Society:

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:

40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about, I just did.

Divine Check-up for Everyone!

I got this email from Cookie ( a long time friend from Chevron) nd I want to share this to all of you. Truly inspiring. beautiful and a call for life!

The Art of Smiling

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word,
a listening ear, and honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
– Leo F. Buscaglia

Last week I facilitated a training on using psychology as marketing tool to about 80 sales representatives of a company. I know from the onset of the training that they were expecting for the typically serious (and boring!) discussion on marketing theories...so it came as a surprise when I gave them a session on the art of smiling. :-)

I always believe that going back to the basics is the greatest marketing tool. Many marketing experts may not agree with me on this but as a practising psychologist,I am a firm believer that a single smile can make a huge difference in reaching out to people. It's the most inexpensive tool too! You need no money, expensive gifts, words, no extra thoughts and explanations... Just a simple smile:) It says a lot. I emphasized in my session that practising and perfecting the art of smiling (i mean genuine smile) can open doors of diverse relationships. Actually, there isn’t any art behind it. A smile is so simple, yet so powerful. Smile can have ultimate effects which I believe every marketing expert should know and internalize:


1. Of course--smile will bring attraction! I don’t mean sexually (well, maybe that too), but people will feel drawn to your energy with a simple smile. When you smile more, you will carry an aura and poise that will draw people to you. People will look forward to being around you, knowing only that they feel great around you. We all like and want to be around happy and cheerful people, right? smile has the power to make other people feel good about themselves. It’s heart-warming and has the power to cheer up others instantly.


2. SMILE will let you feel more positive about yourself and the world. Remember that smile is an expression of happiness and joy. Like an upward spiral, a smile will boost happiness and like a virus---happiness will be contagious! Others can quickly and easily catch it and will experience the side effects.So, why wait? Infect as many people as you can and believe me--in no time---you will make a difference!


3, Physically and Psychologically, SMILE can also affect your internal state, which can have physiological impact on your physical and mental health. I always tell people that when we smile, our brain produces "feel good hormones" which are at the same time our natural pain relievers!

4. SMILE will definitely open doors of friendship.Smile is strong indicator of a welcoming attitude and sure, this will make people feel more at ease with you.

So, do not be afraid to take the smiling challenge!

Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he will see all day.

A Rare Workshop for Bicolano Psychosocial Helping Professionals

Calling All Bicolano Psychosocial Helping Professionals!

The Children and Youth Wellness Technical and Advocacy Center (CYWTAC), Inc organized a one day “Seminar-Workshop on Handling Difficult Clients through Compassionate Therapy” on May 31, 2010 (Monday) at Jardin de Consolacion Hall, Casa de Abuela, 18 Vinzons St., Old Albay, Legazpi City. This seminar will be facilitated by Dr. Benedicta Lascano, Guidance Service Specialist, University of the Philippines, Diliman, Quezon City. This seminar is open to counselors, teachers, social workers and other psychosocial-helping professionals. This seminar will delve on helping clients with emotional difficulties through the application of Compassion Therapy. This therapy operates on the principle that clients are responsible for their own well-being and if assisted properly, they can later develop sensitivity to their own needs and desires and help themselves better.

A minimal registration fee of One Thousand Pesos (P1,000.00) will be collected to cover the meals, kit, certificate and materials for the one day seminar. This seminar is designed for small number of participants, so first reservation, first confirmation will be applied. Priority will be given to those who will pre-register via text or email on or before May 30, 2010 in any of the following contact details:

09215883900 (SMART)
09228670942 (SUN)
09178651901 (Globe)
Email: nethpenetrante@yahoo.com

Endless fear for Election 2010

Like any unprepared company for a major breakthrough--my country is now battling to keep its chaotically and violence-filled election on schedule following a glitch in electronic balloting machines that were being introduced for the first time.Volunteers reported computer problems in other parts of Manila as well as Batangas province. Some machines in four Manila municipalities didn’t report votes as marked on test ballots.

Honestly, now I know obviously why many of my countrymen are against this new scheme---the election haven't started yet but the glitches are so vivid that failure of election is a BIG possibility! I'm just afraid that the billions of pesos placed by the government on this machinery would turn to ashes! I just can't stop my brain in cracking the possibility that the money which had been borrowed from the World Bank appears to have again been used to line the pockets of crooks in government and their cronies without giving the people the service that is due us. I cant wait to see how this election will become...I just hope that the Filipino people will not be robbed of our money and most probably our right to have clean and credible elections. Whatever happens after May 10, i feel strongly that we need to be very vigilant especially against those who have enriched themselves at the expense of the country so that they will be made to pay without FEAR and compromise and made an example for all to see that crime does not pay. May we all have the grace to know what to do in the next months and act on it.

Loving My Yoga Mat!

I admit, I had been a lazy head these past months! Its been a while since I practiced my hatha yoga or even my morning walks! Just last night though, I rediscovered the benefit of yoga and once again, it made me feel really better!When a friend asked me to have an hour of yoga session with her, I started loving this "me" time. Concentrating so intently on what my body is doing has the effect of bringing calmness to my mind. That inicdent also introduced me to meditation (which I practise irregularly) which help me calm my mind. With my daily troubles, both large and small, i learned to appreciate the peace of mind that meditation and yoga can only deliver. Believe me, it provided me the much-needed break from my stressors as well as helped put out things into proper perspectives. Now, Im again loving my yoga mat!

Worst International Convention Ever!%^^$#$@$@%^%^

I am currently attending an international convention for researchers in one of the cities up north. I cannot let this day end without really mentioning that this is so far the most disorganized and worst international or even national convention ever! How awful is this so called international convention? It was the worst-organized, worst-run convention I've ever been to....Let me count the ways:

1. We (me and my co-researchers) arrived the city at 11 PM after a 10 hours bus ride. Believing that we are lined up to stay at the host-school's dormitory, we traveled relaxed and stress-free (i actually enjoyed the de-lux trip of the bus). Not until few minutes before we arrived--we got a text message from the conference chair informing us of the changes in our accomodation arrangements--in other words, we were asked to proceed to this class A hotel. I got my first stressor--i inquired a lot previously about the hotel and i definitely knew of its "first-class" rate. Trusting the advise of the chair, we went there and checked ourselves in. The hotel gave us our second mega-stress when we were informed that in order to avail of the negotiated daily rate of the organizer, they have to have at least 100 particpants to check in (at the hotel) or they will charge all of us the regular rate they give to clients. Knowing their high-rocketed rate, i started conditioning my mind in using my "mega-swipe" technique (magic of the credit card). We were only assured of finally giving us the negotiated rate after two days. Can you just imagine the psychological turmoil we have to endure?!!!*&&%$^#^$

2. The second challenge came--we paid our registration fee through bank account a month before the convention and mind you---the registration process was even traumatic. We were asked to register the day before the convention believing that everything will be easier for us because we paid in advance--but we were wrong. The kits were not ready until the first day, many of those who pre-registered ahead of time were not given the kits and book of abstract until the second day.

3. The schedule of presentation of researches were chaotic too. The convention showcased several best-practise researches but until the end of the 2nd day--no concrete schedule and venue were assigned. It was definitely chaotic! I pity the researchers who came to share their work--but in the end they got the worst stress in their professional life. Instead of showcasing the best-practise researches--it was scrape off from the program! *&&*^&%&$&$ (it was like ordering a complete meal without the main course!).

4. This might be a little harsh--but i feel that the organizers should know about this---the 1st day venue was a comic con!Yes, it was comic you know why? because the participants came to learn not to die of DEHYDRATION and HEAT STROKE!. The venue for the lecture was truly a nightmare--it was super HOT, DELAPIDATED and truly scary (imagine a restroom with a door without a doorknob! People can just peep-in the perfectly made hole for the knob!).The second day venue improved a little (because it was in a hotel) but again, it was below standard. Can you imagine the participants eating their lunches in a very hot hallway? just imagine a suppossed international convention with participants eating in the hallway of the hotel--with no chairs--no tables!

5. The plenary speakers were extreme--with few excellent ones and many "boring" ones (not because they were senseless but their topics were so limited that the issues catered only to small number of paxs). Can you imagine a psychology researcher trying to digest the theories related to fisheries?*&&^^&$^#^$

6. The working committe for this convention was a sole-one-man show. I understood why there were so many lapses because there was limited manpower!

Well, i shouldnt be surprised,really. What’s surprising is that I found joy despite of the hitches of the convention primarily because I enjoyed my time with my co-researchers (especially the bonding time with them, the adventures and the shopping moments!)--these are irreplaceable!

By the way, my co-researchers are my SISTERS!

PINOY POLITIKO IN HEAVEN!

While walking down the street one day, a powerful Senator of the
Philippines is tragically hit by a truck and dies. His soul arrives in
heaven and is met by St. Peter at the entrance.

"Welcome to Heaven," says St. Peter. "Before you settle in, it seems there
is a problem. We seldom see a high official around these parts, you see, so
we're not sure what to do with you."

"No problem, just let me in." says the Senator.

"Well, I'd like to but I have orders from higher-up. What we'll do is have you spend one day in Hell and one in Heaven. Then you can choose where to spend eternity."

"Really, I've made up my mind. I want to be in Heaven," says the Senator.

"I'm sorry but we have our rules." And with that, St. Peter escorts the
senator to the elevator and he goes down, down, down to Hell.

The doors open and he finds himself in the middle of a green golf course.
In the distance is a club and standing in front of it are all his friends
and other politicians who had worked with him, everyone is very happy and
in evening dress. They run to greet him, hug him, and reminisce about the good times they had while getting rich at expense of the people. They play a friendly game of golf and then dine on lobster and caviar.

Also present is the Devil, who really is a very friendly guy who has a good
time dancing and telling jokes. They are having such a good time that,
before he realizes it, it is time to go. Everyone gives him a big hug and
waves while the elevator rises. The elevator goes up, up, up and the door
reopens on Heaven where St. Peter is waiting for him.

"Now it's time to visit Heaven."

So 24 hours pass
with the Senator joining a group of contented souls moving from cloud to
cloud, playing the harp and singing. They have a good time and before he
realizes it, the 24 hours have gone by and St. Peter returns. "Well then,
you've spent a day in Hell and another in Heaven. Now choose your
eternity." He reflects for a minute, then the answers: "Well, would never
have thought it, I mean Heaven has been delightful, but I think I would be
better off in Hell."

So Saint Peter escorts him to the elevator and he goes down, down, down to
Hell. Now the doors of the elevator open and he is in the middle of a
barren land covered with waste and garbage. He sees all his friends,
dressed in rags, picking up the trash and putting it in black bags. The
Devil comes over to the Senator and lays an arm on his neck.

"I don't understand," stammers the Senator. Yesterday I was here and there
was a golf course and club and we ate lobster and caviar and danced and had
a great time. Now all there is a wasteland full of garbage and my friends
look miserable. The Devil looks at him, smiles and says,


"Yesterday we were Campaigning.

Today you voted for us!"

Vote Wisely!!!!

10 Steps to Prevent Election Fraud

10 steps to prevent election fraud
By Leila B. Salaverria
Philippine Daily Inquirer
April 22, 2010

MANILA, Philippines—The poll watchdog Kontra Daya has laid out 10 steps, which voters can take to ensure clean, honest and orderly voting on May 10.

"The most effective safeguard against fraud and failure of elections is an enlightened, prepared and observant people. On election day, we are calling on you to be part of the watch against cheating and failure of elections," the group said in a statement.

The 10 things that voters should do or keep in mind are:

1. Look for their assigned precincts and names on the voters' list early;

2. Check if their ballots are clear and free of marks before accepting them from the Board of Election Inspectors. They should reject ballots with marks or dirt because the counting machines may be unable to read them. Also, spoiled ballots cannot be replaced.

3. Voters should make sure that the BEI scans their ballots to show the ultraviolet mark, as these marks would prove the ballots' authenticity.

4. When the counting machine rejects the ballot, the voter has four tries to insert it again. Voters can also fix ambiguous marks or the improper shading of ovals. The BEI should also explain why the ballot has been rejected. If a machine has rejected several ballots, it has to be replaced.

5. Voters should not over-vote, or choose more candidates than necessary for a position, lest their votes be nullified. They should also make sure that they have shaded the ovals next to the names of the chosen bets fully.

6. If a precinct runs out of ballots, a voter can still cast his vote in the next nearest precinct. The BEI should accompany the voter after giving the latter a certification.

7. Make sure that the BEI is the only one that should be handing out the ballots. Local officials, Comelec personnel or Smartmatic technicians should not interfere in the process. Nobody else could also tinker with the counting machines.

8. Voters should see to it that they sign the voters list at the start, and should be marked with indelible ink at the end.

9. Make sure that voting starts at 7 a.m. Voters who are already in line or are within 30 meters of the polling place at 6 p.m., the standard deadline for voting, would still be allowed to vote.

10. Make sure that the police, the military, para-military forces, security guards, barangay officials, armed men and supporters of politicians who are campaigning are barred from the polling precincts. The BEI should send them out.

THE GREATEST ADVICE

THE GREATEST ADVICE
-Rick Warren, the Purpose Driven
Life

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some
of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you
can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and
dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your
life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to
someone is your time.

Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is
T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or
provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
God is good all the time!


Best Wishes n God Bless,
Perry