Everyone have heard songs about how much love can hurts--not only physically but even on the emotional level. Just recently, singers Chris Brown and Rihanna (umbrella--anybody?) have been the talk of the town--according to a report from TMZ.com, Rihanna told investigators that Brown's violence has been ongoing -- and escalating. Well, the latest story sold like pancake in the bizz world when Rihanna revealed that the famous fight took place following a pre-Grammy party in Los Angeles after Brown received a text message from another woman while the couple was driving in a rented Lamborghini around Hancock Park. An argument ensued, and then escalated into a physical fight, which resulted in Rihanna suffering bruises and bite marks. At some point, Brown even shouted out "I'm going to kill you," according to TMZ. Sadly, lots of relationships (even those seem magical and ideal relationships) turn abusive (even those well-celebrated fantasy driven love stories of celebrities) .
This story is not new to many of us--especially those in helping relationships--I just hope Rihanna will decides to be an example of a woman who will stand up for herself in a domestic violence case like this and show to the world that violence ina loving relationship should not be tolerated. I just wonder why relationships fored out of love can become abusive in the future.
What should you do if you are suffering from an abusive relationship then? If you think you love someone but often feel afraid, it's time to get out of the relationship — FAST! You're worth being treated with respect and THERE IS NO AMOUNT OF VIOLENCE COULD JUSTIFY LOVE. Don't rely on yourself to get out of the situation. Friends and family who love and care about you can help you break away. It's important to know that asking for help isn't a sign of weakness. It actually shows that you have a lot of courage and are willing to stand up for yourself.
Always remember that love shouldnt hurt! In every romantic relationships, I urge all of us to evaluate our situation. Has your bf/gf ever hit you? Taken advantage of you physically or sexually when you did not want it? Verbally or emotionally attacked you, putting you down and belittling you? Threatened you or your loved one with violence? If you answered yes to any of the above...stand up for yourself and...walk away from the situation before it gets worst and you end up down in the dumps. Love Yourself more than anybody else.
Happy Loving!
