tO LoVe and To lOst

The Bachelor Reality TV has proven once again that love made out of media coverage can be cold. The finale of the Bachelor proved to be the most historic finale ever! Single dad, Seattle account executive and all-around nice man-"Bachelor" Jason Mesnick took breaking hearts to a whole new level! First he chose Melissa over Molly in the final rose ceremony and proposed to her on national television. Then ten minutes later, he told Melissa that he didn't love her — because he still has feelings for Molly. Again, ON NATIONAL TELEVISION!! Jason shocked his putative fiancée when he told her that, well, he just wasn't that into her! What the heck!

I would like to share this article because I always believe that LOVE is a gift that two people should share in time--molded by circumstances and life happenings! Truly--media-hyped love story does not endure! No wonder why hollywood couples would get on eachother's arms one day and after few days (or months)--they will claim that they are not into them anymore!

So, why do you think there are people who would jump into relationship as if there is no tomorrow and then breaks it as soon as they feel that they are not into it anymore? Sudden break ups are a mess! So before hooking up with someone--i think we have to learn from the bachelor reality show! lets take note of the following:

Dr. Susan Barnett, assistant professor of psychology, said it's important for would-be couples to realize their sense of identity before they get caught up into a relationship. There are many things that should be considered when you want to enter into a relationship. Differences, attitudes and your way of life matters. Actually not all people who get involved in a relationship are physically and emotionally ready.

1. Do you have the ability to have faith in yourself and in your partner? TRUST is an essential ingredient in a lasting relationship. As long as both of you maintains trust for each other, problems will always be easier to manage or deal with.

2. Do you have the ability to express yourself freely especially with the person? In a relationship it is very important that you know how to tell your partner your desires, your needs, your problems and your life plans. You also need to have the ability to make your own decisions as well.

3. The ability to remain stable without the need for someone: This is because not all relationships last forever. You should not cling to everything that your partner is providing you. You should have know-how in certain things especially the one you already have. Your talents. Pay attention to it and enrich. Being able to stand up alone is good especially if you think you and your partner needs to end up the relationship, whether it's because you can not tolerate his attitudes anymore or you lost your feelings with each other.

4. The ability to stand up for your individuality: Standing up for what you believe and being able to express who you really are. Do not let your partner change that. You are who you are especially if you know that there's nothing wrong with your personality.

Loving is a good feeling--so long as you're sharing it with the right person......happy loving!

ThE mAgIc oF MoVieS

I dont tell this to many of my friends--but--if i have the luxury of time to rest--one thing I love doing is sitting on acouch--with my fav junkfood--and just enjoy the world of movies! For some who read my past entries--you will immediately observe my love for movies. If there is one thing I'd like to do during my idle moments--it is to watch movies! Like songs and of course--shopping-- movie is a therapy for me. In movies, I get to imagine (even the wildest ones!), I get to experience the immediate shifting of emotions (like the one i got from watching--"the notebook"!--i got bored, I felt happy, I felt loved and I felt sad!) and I get to be in the magical world even for a moment. Now, let me share with you again movies that touched my heart lately---these movies are feel good movies that everyone of us should watch (from time to time) to make us appreciate life and art.

1. August Rush- What a title! The story of a charismatic young Irish guitarist and a sheltered young cellist who have a chance encounter one magical night above New York's Washington Square, but are soon torn apart, leaving in their wake an infant, August Rush, orphaned by circumstance. Now performing on the streets of New York and cared for by a mysterious stranger, August uses his remarkable musical talent to seek the parents from whom he was separated at birth. What I like about this movie is on how the boy (august Rush) made his way to his parents through his music. His passion for music led him home. I always believe that in time---we will all go back to what we want--to where our passion will lead us. Recommended for music lovers like me!

2. The Notebook-The movie starts in a nursing home with Duke reading to an older woman, whose memory is slipping from her more and more everyday. Duke reads the story of two lovers who meet in the south at a carnival. Allie was 17. A city girl from money, and Noah was a country boy. The two spend the whole summer together but Allie is forced to move and go to college although she was willing to give it up for Noah. Noah writes Allie 365 letters and she never gets them. So he restores the house him and ALlie went to one night out of 'labor of love'. Seven years pass and Allie meets and falls in love with a wealthy soldier Lon. When seeing Noah's picture in the paper, Allie is drawn back to him. They spent a few days together and she doesn't want to leave. Allie has to chose between her fiancé and Noah.The Notebook is not one of those cheesy chick flicks that often come out, it is a brilliantly written intriguing story about two young lovers that most people can relate to. The story was magical with a little twist in the end. Fall in love all over and over with this movie!

3. 12 Angry Men- Nominated for 3 Oscars. Another 13 wins & 6 nominations --this movie focuses on a jury's deliberations in a capital murder case. Just watched for the first time, and was very impressed. Very engaging. A 12-man jury is sent to begin deliberations in the first-degree murder trial of an 18-year-old Latino accused in the stabbing death of his father, where a guilty verdict means an automatic death sentence. The case appears to be open-and-shut: The defendant has a weak alibi; a knife he claimed to have lost is found at the murder scene; and several witnesses either heard screaming, saw the killing or the boy fleeing the scene. Eleven of the jurors immediately vote guilty; only Juror No. 8 (Mr. Davis) casts a not guilty vote. At first Mr. Davis' bases his vote more so for the sake of discussion after all, the jurors must believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the defendant is guilty. As the deliberations unfold, the story quickly becomes a study of the jurors' complex personalities (which range from wise, bright and empathetic to arrogant, prejudiced and merciless), preconceptions, backgrounds and interactions. That provides the backdrop to Mr. Davis' attempts in convincing the other jurors that a "not guilty" verdict might be appropriate. After watching this movie--i can give you the go signal to scream if you want (hehehe).

Happy Viewing!