For the past months, I have been quietly carving my life lessons in my heart..waiting for the right time to finally be able to write my thoughts and reflections. Today, I would like to focus more on relationships. Allow me then to share the little reflections I got from my recent life events:
FIRST: There is no perfect relationship. No perfect people.
Allow me to share with you this story. A man, desperate to find his perfect mate went to a local matchmaking agency. When asked about his purpose for visiting, he said "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The agent said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
This story simply reminds us that in any type of relationships, it is useless to look for perfection. I've been to relationships and one of the greatest lessons i've learned is that the more we demand for a perfect person and the perfect relationship, the more we will not establish one. There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
SECOND: TRUST is a huge element in keeping and maintaining relationships.
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
THIRD: NEVER-EVER EXCLUDE SOMEONE (especially in friendships)
That is one of the biggest and most unnecessary emotional weights we will carry through our lives. When we make commitments, we at the same time accept people, so better not build a relationship to a person you will just exclude after. The emotional pain of rejection is a thorn in the heart you cannot just heal in a second.
LASTLY: They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.
Let me end this entry with this funny "multidisciplinary" reflections on keeping and letting go of people you care so much!
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If you love someone,
Set her free...
If she comes back, she's yours,
If she doesn't, she never was....
THE NEW VERSIONS.....
Pessimist:
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If you love someone,
Set her free ...
If she ever comes back, she's yours,
If she doesn't, as expected, she never was
Optimist:
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If you love someone,
Set her free ...
Don't worry, she will come back.
Suspicious:
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If you love someone,
Set her free ...
If she ever comes back, ask her why.
Impatient:
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If you love someone,
Set her free ...
If she doesn't comes back within some time
forget her.
Patient:
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If you love someone,
Set her free .
If she doesn't come back, continue to wait
until she comes back .
Playful:
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If you love someone,
Set her free .
* If she comes back, and if you love her
still, set her free again, rep! eat *
C++ Programmer:
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if(you-love(m_she))
m_she.free()
if(m_she == NULL)
m_she= new CShe;
Animal-Rights Activist:
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
In fact, all living creatures deserve to
be free!!
Lawyers:
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
Clause 1a of Paragraph 13a-1 in the second
amendment of the Matrimonial Freedom Act
clearly states that...
Bill Gates :
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
If she comes back,
I think we can charge her for re-installation fees
and but tell her that
she's also going to get an upgrade.
Biologist :
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
She'll evolve.
Statisticians :
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
If she loves you,
the probability of her coming back is high
If she doesn't, your relation was
improbable anyway.
Schwarzenegger's fans:
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If you love someone,
Set her free,
SHE'LL BE BACK!
Over possessive person
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If you love someone
don't set her free.
HR specialist
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If you love someone
set her free by
Offering her VRS and other benefits
Then outsource her.
MBA
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If you love someone
set her free
instantaneously
and look for others simultaneously
Psychologist
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If you love someone
set her free
If she comes back her super ego is dominant
If she doesn't come back her id is supreme
If she doesn't go, she must be crazy.
Somnambulist
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If you love someone
set her free
If she comes back it's a nightmare
If she doesn't, you must be dreaming.
Rhett Butler
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If you love someone
set YOURSELF FREE
If she asks you why
say you don't give a damn.
ERP functional expert
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If you love someone
set her free
If she comes back, map her into your system
If she does'nt, carry out a gap-fit analysis
Finance expert
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If you love someone
set her free
If she comes back its time to look fresh loans
If she doesn't, write her off as an asset gone bad.
Marketing Expert
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If you love someone
set her free
If she comes back she has brand loyalty
If she doesn't, reposition the brand in new markets.
