A blog follower of mine asked me to write about friendship...specifically on the qualities of a true and genuine friendship.It took me 2 long and enduring weeks to gather my thoughts and let my left brain speak for myself.
I started with a very simple yet difficult question: "How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world?"..such a complex point for reflection. But let me try putting my thoughts on this.
I can say that I am blessed to have so many friends and a few really exclusive friends..While some people struggle to find friends, in my case, it was fate who brought me to my trusted friends today. What is really unique in my beautiful close friendships, they are established over time and amazingly--no words were exchanged to signify the connection--it was like a DNA naturally-fixed together--quietly established without announcing to the world--we just felt it quietly among us..:-)
I am blessed to have very few people around me who never uttered words but showed mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that though, my genuine friendship experiences involved a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. One great friendship formula though (from my experiences) is that: friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth.
True enough I also unluckily met people who once appeared to be potential friends but later on--discovering its not worth the healthy connection. Like the imperfect world, there are people I met who failed to possess faithfullness factor which is a key element in relationships. For me, faithfulness and loyalty are keys to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.
True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends. Furthermore, a true friend desires your happiness and joy and does not get upset when good things happen to you, just because good things aren't happening to them.
A true friend is a blessing and hard to come by, most of us only get one or two in a lifetime. Count your blessings today by counting the TRUE FRIENDS in your life!
Happy COunting!
